the fabulous surealism of movies & manga

i was reading some mangas online last night because i couldn't sleep and it made me realize the same way in which almost all manga romance scenes happen. the guy always kisses the girl and the girl is always like "oh me, oh my. is this really happening??" but in real life it's the girl who always comes down hard on the guy and the guy who plays hard to get. it makes it hard for girls, you know? you could be leaning onto a guy, picking at his shirt, giving him puppy dog eyes and rest your head on his chest and he'd be the one who looked scared to death! guys never lead the girls on anymore. how sad... i've been with a lot of guys and truthfully not many of them more than flings or one nighters but the girls are always leading the guy on! what's with that? maybe it's different is japan, but it sure seems that way in movies, too. even the guys that you think are like walking hormones freeze in the bedroom. maybe i've been with too many inexprinenced guys but i mean really! do us girls have to do all the work? lol.